“Good girl” or a creative woman. Which one do you choose to be?

Every girl was taught to be good from childhood.

Any of us will list a whole list of rules, functions and requirements that an ideal daughter, student, wife, employee, mother must meet...

We will not dwell on the details; you can create your own list yourself. But, if we look at it in general, it comes down to several points.

What a comfortable, “good girl” SHOULD do

1. Listen to your elders

There is always someone who knows what is “right”.

First - parents and grandparents. Then - teachers, bosses, husbands...

Even if a woman has already become a mother and seems to be able to teach her children the “rules,” she is not exempt from “listening to elders.” After all, there is her mother, and even her mother-in-law.

It turns out that there will always be someone “more authoritative” than you, and there seems to be no end in sight to this cycle.

 

2. Don’t ask unnecessary questions, especially “Why does it have to be this way?”

That's why. Our grandfathers lived this way, and so will we.

You need to walk along convenient paths trodden by “generations of ancestors.”

3. Carry out the accepted list of actions for a particular social role

Which? And you wrote it above, for example, for “a good mother” or “a good wife.”

Clean every day, make 50 liters of jam, don’t argue with your boss, go to the factory, force the children to study well...

Who determines this list - see the paragraph above.

4. Care about others, not yourself

You were convenient for scoundrels, because you are so kind...
E. Yevtushenko

Think about others first, think about yourself last (if time and energy remain). Yes, by others we mean not only close ones, but also generally unknown “all people”.

Be kind (Oh-oh-oh!... What scope there is for manipulators who use your kindness for their own purposes).

Don't upset anyone. But no matter what you do, someone will definitely be upset or offended... You can be led by this rope for a long time.

In general, a good girl is called that because she is good and convenient for everyone. Except yourself. And everyone enjoys using this...

5. Pass on this experience to other girls (daughters, students)

Because otherwise she will be called a “bad mother” or “bad teacher.”

A bleak picture... It turns out to be a vicious circle of “endemic goodness.” Some women, who do not love themselves, teach growing girls to live the same way as they do, and they teach their daughters, and so on...

But there is one colossal thing about all this that makes me very happy. FREEDOM OF CHOICE.

And it is from her that the Creative Woman is born.

She creates her own reality. The word “should” disappears from her vocabulary. It kills the ease and freedom of creation. Such a woman uses the words “I want” and “I choose.”

Of course, she is conscious and adequate; freedom for her does not mean complete disregard for social rules.

She just thinks and chooses every time how she will act in every next moment of her life.

What does a Creative Woman CHOOSE to do?

1. Listen to yourself

Listen to your body, heart, ask for advice from your Higher Self. Be guided by your own wisdom and intuition.

No one knows your life, the circumstances and motives of your choices better than you. There is not a single person in the world who knows “what is right” for you to do in your life, except you.

2. Constantly ask questions and look for new ways

Of course, the Creative Woman has a list of habitual and understandable patterns of behavior that are pleasant to her and work well in her life (for example, going to bed at a certain time).

But she found them herself, by listening to herself and studying her body and psyche.

She possesses the experience of previous generations, but does not accept all of it “on faith,” but takes only what is truly comfortable and valuable to her.

Her feminine energy is very high. She creates every moment, looking for non-standard options. She sees and creates beauty and magic even in the simplest, everyday things. A dance, a painting, playing with a child or dinner - everything becomes a miracle in her hands.

3. Try to be as happy as possible, regardless of what social role you currently play.

The beauty of a woman is not in her clothes, figure or hairstyle. It glows in her happy eyes. After all, the eyes are the gates of the heart in which love lives.
Audrey Hepburn

A good daughter, wife, mother, employee - first of all, in every case, a Creative Woman is happy. She chooses joy and pleasure, and does not do anything that contradicts this. Even if someone thinks they “should do it.”

Next to a happy woman, her husband, children, and colleagues are happy. Her feelings are sincere and easy, and every family member feels inspired next to her.

And various household or professional affairs in this flow are done as if by themselves. And yes, those around you are very happy to help with their implementation.

4. Love and value yourself

Take care of your physical health and psychological comfort.

Relax, relax, engage in pleasant sports activities, go for massages and spa treatments.

Find time and solitude for self-development and meditation. Chat with nice people.

A self-loving, happy woman fills the surrounding space, family, and work team with warmth and light.

5. Support others' value and freedom of choice.

Girls should always be told that they are beautiful and that everyone loves them. If I have a daughter, I will always tell her that she is beautiful, I will comb her hair and I will not leave her alone for a minute.
Marilyn Monroe

A Creative Woman does not impose her way of life on anyone and does not condemn someone else’s.

But everyone who communicates with her is imbued with a feeling of lightness and self-worth. She has accepted her beauty and strength, and now sees it in others.

A Creative Woman is truly inspiring for her friends, daughters, students...

How good it is that at every moment of our lives there is freedom of choice!

Each woman can choose for herself whether to remain a good and comfortable girl until retirement, or take life into your own hands and create it with pleasure...

And I made my choice. I wish the same for you, dear friends.