What will you “wear” your slimness with?

You are familiar with this situation: you see someone, for example, wearing a blouse (or a skirt, or a dress - it doesn’t matter!). And you really liked this thing. You simply become obsessed with the idea of buying, if not the same thing, then at least a similar one.

You even mentally imagined what and when you would wear it with. You go around a bunch of stores and find it (and lo and behold! it even has your size!)! Of course, without hesitation, you take it. Come home and at some point you realize that it has nothing to do with your wardrobe! At all! It doesn't go with anything at all! You need to buy a separate set of clothes and accessories for it. Or you're walking around the mall with a friend and she literally persuades you to take an item that, in her opinion, looks great on you! You doubt it a little, but at some point you still give in to her persuasion. And then exactly the same story happens. This thing is “not from your movie.” And more often than not, if you don't return it to the store, it can simply sit on the shelf for years. By the way, this happened to me. The only question is, in what “frenzy” did I make the purchase?

It’s the same story with slimness. A woman is sitting in front of me. She is 32 years old, unmarried, wealthy, smart and beautiful. I ask her: “Why do you need to be slim?” The answer is standard - for lightness, beauty, health... This is still an abstraction. Please specify. She says she wants to be beautiful for men and get married. Create a happy family. And as the consultation progresses, it turns out that “all men are assholes” - that’s it. Secondly, my mother said that all beautiful women are either unhappy or prostitutes. And thirdly, in the girl’s family history, the option “they lived happily ever after” does not seem to exist. All the women of the family, as if by choice, are single mothers, and the men suffer from alcoholism. With such a “dowry,” she decides to lose weight, not realizing that this shell of fat is designed to save her from “men-goats” (and from the rest, too, just in case). What's next? Let's say she starts following some kind of diet and losing weight. She is getting prettier, looks a little younger, and feels better. Men begin to pay attention to her. An affair even begins with one of them. At first everything is very romantic - flowers, cinema, walks around the city at night and long-awaited SMS... Then the relationship develops and the man, excited by such beauty, begins to hint at a continuation. And from this moment conflicts begin in the couple. She looked wrong, didn’t immediately write a response message, and a bald spot appeared, and the friends were wrong, and in general, according to her horoscope, he didn’t suit her. And it all ends banally. She is again convinced that there are no worthy “normal” men. She is bitter, lonely and sad. And she again finds solace in food. The weight is coming back.

This slimness is like that same blouse for her that is not from her wardrobe. She doesn't know which way to approach her. It doesn't fit her life values. Therefore, our girl does not “wear” her graceful figure for long.

Before losing weight, think about why? What is your goal? Just don't rush to answer. Listen to your feelings...Are you ready to face the bonuses that being slim will give you?
A correctly defined goal is what will allow you to not only easily lose weight, but also maintain it. Why do you need to be healthy? Why do you need beautiful clothes? What is lightness? How will your life change? Are you ready for these changes?

Author: Khafizova Olga Vladimirovna